Hi everyone and hope you are well, so it's closely coming to that that time of the year, yes Christmas where people come together and give gifts and celebrate being with each other and showing love. That's great, but also it's a time of reflection on the people and animals and other things we have lost, don't get me wrong I am not writing this to bring you down and make you feel sad, as whilst we are together we love and value each other, but sometimes I feel the message of Christmas is lost. What I am talking about is the competing over who has the best presents or the most amount of money, but that is just my perspective.
When we have family or friends, pets, we love them and care for them, but when they pass, well it leaves a huge hole in our lives. Some of you may be grieving over that loss or had the loss previously, of which we all have sometime or other. As humans we have feelings and sometimes shoving the feelings away instead of talking about them has a huge impact or our mental health, it is only recently that mental health has come to the forefront of things, with prince William, Prince Harry and Kate Middleton covering highlighting mental health, which Prince Harry himself admitted to feeling depressed and anxious after his Mothers death.
Most recently with the death of Chester Bennington from Linkin Park, of which I was at there last concert, whilst he was still here, strangely though it was my first time going to a Linkin Park concert. He had his own demons of which I didn't realise until after his passing. Now on reflection listening to the words it is so obvious.
With the film Inside out , it talks about the importance of not trying to be joyful all the time and suppressing the other feelings, which then makes you feel worse as you are not dealing with the feelings associated with grief loss and the other things you have to deal with and then this has a downwards spiral effect.
People are feelings less ashamed these Days in regards to mental health, but there is still a stigma attached. There is a chap I have spoke to recently who is carrying out a charity challenge in regards to highlighting mental health issues called Roughing it for our heroes, which runs from the 18/12/17-18/02/18,where will be walking the Streets of Wales and England and sleeping rough to raise awareness of homelessness and the mental health suffering of our troops.
What is the answer to ease the suffering, well I don't know, but I do know, we need to talk, it is ok to ask for help. If you are in dire need speak to your Doctor, speak to The Samaritans, but do each out and don't suffer in silence, someone may have gone through what you are going through and may be able to help you or point you in the right direction.
It is ok to feel, it is ok to help, people won't think less of you, if they do it is because they are dealing with there own battles, but also may not have been on your journey and don't have the perspective that you do